Transforming grief into peace: the normal grieving mind––memory construction, deconstruction, and reconsolidation

Abstract

ABSTRACT On the 19th of September 2020 Ernest Rossi, my husband, professional partner, and best friend of 30 years left this mortal world. His passing was a comparatively rapid process of dissipation extended over a period of approximately six days. In addition to the complex of emotions and physical responses, I experienced grief. This grief affected me more than any prior loss or sadness in my life as my consciousness was altered into fluctuating quantum trance states characteristic of hypnosis while dancing on the spacetime continuum. As I transformed grief to peace, I utilized established “Rossi” principles as guidelines for effective therapeutic hypnosis and developing a satisfying life. In the tradition of our life together, I was the “operator” who had a subjective experience and yet, at the same time, I was also the “observer” who would watch, learn, and discover new knowledge. This paper is the emergent outpouring of the dynamic interplay between the observer and the operator, which is, therefore experiential, revealing, revelational, and numinous.