Toward an understanding of the complexities surrounding forgiveness among men struggling with paternal attachment injury

Abstract

ABSTRACTThis study explores the complexities surrounding forgiveness in men struggling with early paternal attachment injury. In-depth semi-structured interviews were conducted with 20 young men who identified themselves as having experienced an early paternally inflicted emotional injury that critically damaged the father–son relationship bond. Findings suggest that injurers’ forgiveness promoting behaviors such as the expression of remorse and apology do not seem to contribute to forgiveness. Maternal involvement in sons’ forgiveness processes appeared to be of commanding importance, with mothers’ forgiveness facilitating that of sons. Participants showed a strong tendency to define their mothers, along with themselves, as dual victims of the paternal attachment injury. Findings are discussed in light of the existing literature on family forgiveness dynamics. It is posited that family-based models to promote forgiveness could be helpful for resolving paternal injury to the father–child relationship bond.