The Submissive Sex

Jacey Rayne Magnussen

doi:10.29173/mruhr350

Abstract

Men hold power over women in almost every aspect of life; this is a historical and cross-cultural fact that becomes exemplified in heterosexual relationships. Males are expected to fulfill the role of provider and ruler while females take order and surrender emotional and physical care. Considering these roles and expectations, the unequal power dynamics within relationships often blur the lines of sexism and domination, often manifesting within sex as the fetishism of control. With a quick glance through Craigslist men seeking women personal ads, we are given a window into some of the fetishes expressed in heterosexual relationships.

Highlights

“I am a 30 year old submissive male looking forward to being dominated and treated like a slave by a strict dominant mistress...I would do everything for my mistress and not limited to maintaining the house, cleaning...every household work and be sexually tortured, tormented, humiliated and everything possible in my mistress’s mind...” (Lookout for a dominant mistress, 2014) “I feel the most at peace when I’m kneeling at the feet of a woman and doing things to please her.” (Submissive needing to serve dominant women, 2014) Throughout this essay I will explore how public and historically pervasive gender roles effect one’s sexual desires, in regards to heterosexual men rejecting their positions in society and yearning to be controlled by dominant women
Whether people are looking to take on the slave or master role there is obvious interest in testing power dynamics and either yielding total control or acquiring it
People who are born female are socialized from birth to become submissive, gentle and obedient, while people who are born male are socialized to become the exact opposite - dominate, confident and in command

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Introduction

“I am a 30 year old submissive male looking forward to being dominated and treated like a slave by a strict dominant mistress...I would do everything for my mistress and not limited to maintaining the house, cleaning...every household work and be sexually tortured, tormented, humiliated and everything possible in my mistress’s mind...” (Lookout for a dominant mistress, 2014) “I feel the most at peace when I’m kneeling at the feet of a woman and doing things to please her.” (Submissive needing to serve dominant women, 2014) Throughout this essay I will explore how public and historically pervasive gender roles effect one’s sexual desires, in regards to heterosexual men rejecting their positions in society and yearning to be controlled by dominant women. Many heterosexual relationships follow this pattern, with men as master and women as slave, both socially and sexually. Very rarely do we see males openly and voluntarily reducing their masculine role in society to submit to a female, either socially or sexually.

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