The Role of the Bereavement Group in the Face of 9/11: A Self–Psychology Perspective

Abstract

The sudden traumatic loss of a spouse equates to an assault on self and the loss of both an internal and external self–object. Mourning requires compensatory self–objects to help in the restoration of self and in the creation of new self–structure. The catastrophe of 9/11 not only assaulted thousands with unanticipated traumatic loss, but also devastated the usual networks of support. In this light, the bereavement group became a valuable venue for self–restoration and recovery. In her group work with 9/11 corporate and uniformed service widows, the author applies a self–psychology perspective that considers that empathic immersion not only affords safety and stabilization, but the opportunity to have self–object needs met in a process that restores and develops self–structure. She proposes the bereavement group as a cohesive self–object milieu serving mirroring, twinship, and idealizing needs. Drawing upon clinical examples, she illuminates the capacity of the group to establish safety, regulate affect, reduce isolation and shame, rekindle memory, and foster coping skills. As such, the group affords a restoration of the assaulted self, an integration of the loss, and an emerging redefinition of self.