The interaction between donor-conceived families and their environment: parents’ perceptions of societal understanding and attitudes regarding their family-building

Abstract

Disclosure issues in relation to donor conception have mainly been examined in the context of relationships and interaction within donor-conceived families, whilst influences from outside the family, for example societal ones, have been little researched. This study explored the societal experiences of individuals who build their family with the help of donor conception (i.e. donor-conceived families), specifically, where and how parents and society interact and the presence and influence of cultural beliefs and values regarding the family. Belgian (n = 89) and Swedish (n = 56) donor-conceiving parents completed an online-survey focusing on their experiences with societal perceptions and attitudes and behaviour and responses from friends, healthcare professionals and teachers. Descriptive and comparative statistical analyses were conducted. Results showed that donor-conceiving parents were challenged by societal representations, responses from friends, healthcare professionals and teachers, and cultural norms and values. Parents had to cope with lack of knowledge and understanding of donor-conceived families and colliding views on the relevance of genes in kinship. They needed to be able to explain and defend themselves, correct others and handle emotions and sensitivity when managing these interactions. Through psycho-education health-care professionals can help families anticipate potential reactions and manage societal responses by strengthening parents’ coping mechanisms. These findings also call for awareness of the presence of cultural norms and values even when counsellor and patient share the same culture because counsellor and donor-conceiving parents can relate differently to (collide or conform with them) the shared cultural norms, which can impact on parents’ experience.