The Content of Relational Uncertainty in Non-Engaged Cohabiting Relationships

Abstract

Cohabitation, or living together without marrying, is a common and potentially problematic part of contemporary dating relationships. Cohabiting partners rarely share the same vision for the future of their relationship, often resulting in an unclear state of commitment. This study used a relational uncertainty lens to examine the nuances of uncertainties in cohabiting partnerships. We conducted a content analysis of open-ended responses from over 103 couples (N = 206). Results suggest that cohabiting partners cope with relational uncertainties that are specific to both marital and dating relationships, as well as several relational uncertainties that are unique to cohabitation. Findings also showed that the majority of partners do not identify similar topics of relational uncertainty. In light of these results, it is recommended that cohabiting couples make a concerted effort to discuss their uncertainties with their partner early and objectively, as well as to consider how their strains in social networks might add to individual and relational stress.