The Clergy, the Clinician, and the Narrative of Violent Death

Abstract

When death of a loved one occurs, humans use stories as a way of processing their grief and releasing their emotional attachment. In the case of traumatic and violent death, the story telling process is distorted, and focuses intensely and sometimes obsessively, on a often fantasized reenactment of the dying. Violent dying grief is often complicated further by the public and legal processes that surround violent death. The bereaved who get stuck in this dynamic may constitute a new psychiatric diagnosis called “prolonged grief disorder” and the author describes the criteria for this disorder. Clergy can play a key role in stabilizing and meditating the effects of trauma by inviting the bereaved to refocus their story telling, to a story of the loved one’s life. In a case the author illustrates many of the techniques used in this process of working with a prolonged grief disorder.