The Armor Metaphor in Marital and Family Therapy

Abstract

Each of us develops a suit of armor to protect us in dangerous situations. Within our families, we can feel both intimate and vulnerable to attack. Often family members relate to one another from within a protective stance that shields us from extreme harm and also interferes with communications and problem solutions that enhance growth. This article describes the premises and a therapeutic intervention using the armor metaphor to treat couples and families that helps family members to alternate between protected, and defended interactions to patterns that promote openness and directness. Specific techniques and strategies are presented for the therapist's use that flow from the intervention.