On the One Time I Lost My Virginity, and the Three Times I Gave It Away

Abstract

In this poem, I examine the concept of virginity as a social construct by referencing situations where I was told it could be lost through simple everyday acts, such as riding a horse or inserting a tampon. Through examining such situations, I equate virginity with the mere act of penetration. In doing this, I establish that penetrative masturbation is a loss of virginity, thereby challenging the idea that virginity is something that can be either lost or given. I take the reader through four separate sexual or pseudo sexual experiences to establish a non-linear journey through navigating virginity. The poem ends with the revelation that through the act of masturbating with a dildo, my virginity became something I gave myself.