O-282 Is the poly parenthood the new type of parenthood?

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Abstract Is multi-parenthood the new type of parenthood? Conceiving and raising a child with someone who is not a committed conjugal partner has long been disapproved of and is still regarded by some with concern or disdain. However, this way of having children, also referred to as ‘co-parenting’, has increasingly become a family-building option in itself. Originally describing the cooperation of parents in raising their children after divorce, this term now also designates people who deliberately pursue this type of family arrangement and commit to raising a child together, possibly with their respective partners. This parental path is usually chosen to provide a child with a mother and a father with whom they can develop long-lasting relationships. This paper explores some of the opportunities and challenges presented by co-parenting involving more than two parental figures, by focussing on the experiences and accounts of lesbian women and gay men engaged in such family arrangements in Belgium. Drawing on work by social theorists of the family, the main features and advantages of these arrangements are examined to show that while co-parenting might at first seem marginal and complicated, it appears particularly well adapted to contemporary social constraints and parenting expectations. It can facilitate the achievement of a number of ideals and expectations valued in contemporary society, including: the biological heteronormativefamily model; the possibility to negotiate and implement reflexive parentalpractices; the need for a committed but personalised parenthood; and the desire for a betterand more flexible life-balance. Despite these advantages for those involved, multi-parental arrangements raise a set of social, ethical and legal questions that challenge broader legal and ideological family norms.