Le malentendu dans les activités sexuelles à l’adolescence : un signe de sexualité préoccupante ?

Abstract

ObjectivesThe adolescence corresponds to this existential period when the violence in its creative and destructive functions is the mainspring at the same time and challenge. During this time of passage, the young has to negotiate with himself, his family and the others. Stage of transformation and transfer, revival of multiple psychic conflicts, the adolescence sees the sexuality penetrating the reality of the body. In this context in which the rising sexual activity is associated with a concern, the misunderstanding occupies a central place in the sense where most of the time the protagonists involved in acting him hardly took the opportunity to speak to itself and to get on. Behind a misunderstanding, there are on one side facts and the other one a subject which put them in act. Patients and methodsThe article develops a clinical label involving three adolescents, a boy and two girls. Misunderstandings quickly appear about activity of sexual nature. The excitement gets involved in the fears not without generating of the ambivalence. The mutual incomprehension contains a potential trauma. It is then relevant to intervene without wanting inevitably to define the truth in its material translation of the reality. A type of dense and flexible care gives encouraging results as for the reduction of the traumatisation of a particular event. We move forward stage by stage by proposing times of meeting with a rhythm enough steady and by lending us if necessary as media of expression. Yet it is hardly always well-to-do to act not in the haste but with density and speed in the interest of some of the others. It is essential to take into account at the same time relational stakes, their impacts on the individualities, and the psychic dimensions appropriate to every protagonist. A collective and personal historian can develop in these testing moments of crisis on basis of an intervention such as sketched here, by considering repercussions at the level of the socio circle of acquaintances. ResultsThe approaches which establish themselves on the only reality of the behaviour risk to evacuate the subject which puts the qualified act of worrying. For us we suggest dreading the subjective dimension by examining the question of the sexuality from the point of view of the functioning of a personality. In other words, the question is not only of knowledge which is the act which was put, but to know which committed it. We thus watch to construe the subjective impact of the act, by reminding that the human being becomes established as subject of his speech and as agent of his act. The misunderstanding also constitutes an original media of meeting of the teenager in question. We propose a categorization of worrisome sexual activities by underlining that, in number of scenarios, the young person shows elements of several categories: a/the young people in sexual life without restraint; b/the young people confronted with the constraint of the anxiety; c/the young people led by an intense need for love; d/the young people committing sexual abuses; e/the young people showing a perversion. Besides, we shall not evoke rare disturbing sexual activities put aside by the young people in the psychotic functioning. The care leans on two concepts-keys, on one hand, the succession of two different phases, that are the evaluation and the treatment and on the other hand, the complementarity of several epistemology as well as the work in network. We advocate the establishment of a partnership envelope based on the collaboration and the respect of the principles of the shared secret. ConclusionsThe misunderstanding can reveal a worrisome sexual activity in the adolescence. Indeed let us limit the current trends “to tax” any sexual act of aggression, and his author of “abuser”, and the addressee to act him of “victim”! To limit, we determine what belongs to the physical, sexual exploration, including the consensus of the protagonists, what goes out again from the pathology. The distinction is essential at the risk otherwise to stigmatize certain young people in full constructive run-up by gathering in a single troop of the different profiles from each other. The misunderstanding represents a beautiful opportunity of meeting of a young person in the inviting to a correct interpretation of the facts, by taking into account the place they occupy in the psychic and relational functioning.