Intergenerational Ambivalence: Further Steps in Theory and Research

Abstract

Key Words: ambivalence, family therapy, gender, intergenerational relations, postmodernism. The article by Ingrid Connidis and Julie McMullin and initiative of Journal of Marriage and Family's editor provide an excellent opportunity to continue discussion on relevance of concept of ambivalence for study of intergenerational relations. Nearly 4 years have passed since Karl Pillemer and I (Luscher & Pillemer, 1998) published our ideas on topic in this journal. Connidis and McMullin take this article as their starting point and refer to it both approvingly and critically. I cannot always follow their critique, as I will show at appropriate points below. What counts most, however (and this is greatly to be applauded) is that all of us are interested in further development of approach. Interestingly, insights into ambivalence between parents and adult children can be traced back to beginnings of human society, although term itself was apparently first created only in 1910. In Greek mythology, some of greatest sagas depict what we now refer to as ambivalence. The best known of these is drama of fateful relationship between Oedipus and his father. This theme is also found in modern literature. Franz Kafka's story The Metamorphosis or, more recently, Philip Roth's novel American Pastoral, are only two of many examples. Today, term ambivalence is widely used. For example, we may hear adult children saying that they feel ambivalent about placing their elderly father or mother in a nursing home. The central question, then, is to determine what can be gained by using concept in family research. I agree with Connidis and McMullin that concept of ambivalence enables us to study intergenerational relationships with greater openness and it can help to accentuate sociological perspective. To this end, structural conditions of ambivalence should be given adequate attention. The authors mention gender inequality as a particular example, thereby providing a bridge to gender studies. Taking this a step further, I see concept of ambivalence as well-suited to linking various disciplines that work on problem of generations (Mannheim, 1928). Ambivalence can be comprehended as a concept, as defined by Blumer (1969), giving the user a general sense of reference and guidance in approaching empirical instances. Whereas definitive concepts provide prescriptions of what to see, sensitizing concepts merely suggest directions along which to look. (p. 148). I would even maintain that challenge of ambivalence lies in its ambiguities. I say this drawing on Levine's stimulating book, The Flight from Ambiguity (1986). The author provides a wellgrounded argument that insight into ambiguity of a concept is a motor for development of new ideas. But in order for this motor to really function and propel us forward, conceptual determinations are indispensable. They are also foundation for formulation of specific hypotheses and for development of research instruments. In this regard, few concrete suggestions can be found in article by Connidis and McMullin. Of course they offer numerous examples but for research, systematic conceptual work is indispensable. This is where scientific approach to intergenerational ambivalence differs from that found in literary works and everyday common sense. STEPS TOWARD DEFINING AMBIVALENCE In order to avoid a potential misunderstanding, I would like to make it clear that I do not intend to present an all-purpose or ultimate definition of ambivalence. That would be dogmatic. Because ambivalence is a concept that is discussed in many different contexts-from ordinary language to psychological and sociological research-we must attempt to isolate its major ideas and dimensions. For this purpose, it is most useful to turn to brief yet many faceted history of concept's scientific use. …