‘He’s not my pimp’: toward an understanding of intimate male partner involvement in female sex work at the Mexico–US border

Abstract

Female sex work is often perceived as women being controlled by men. We used surveys and qualitative interviews with female sex workers and their intimate partners in two Northern Mexico cities to examine couples’ own perceptions of their relationships and male partners’ involvement in sex work. Among 214 couples, the median age was 34 and relationship duration was approximately 3 years. Only 10 women in the survey reported having a pimp, and the majority reported sole control over sex work decisions. Qualitative analyses revealed that while most men avoided direct involvement in sex work, they offered advice that was largely driven by concern for their partner’s well-being. Our discussion of these results considers the broader socio-political context surrounding these relationships and how changing gender roles, economic insecurity and stigma shape couples’ everyday social interactions. Assumptions that all sex workers’ relationships are coercive and commercial marginalises these couples while leaving their health concerns unaddressed.