Filial Considerations in Mate Selection: Urban and Rural Guangdong in the Post-Mao Era

Abstract

This article examines the transformation of filial piety by probing disagreements between parents and children over marriage decisions. Based on field observations and in-depth interviews in Guangdong, this research shows that children’s responses to disagreements vary by gender, generation, and rural or urban background. Collective family economies and intergenerational moral imperatives create a strong patriarchal basis for filial obedience for older respondents and rural non-migrants. Rural migrants’ responses are the most diverse given the option to live separately from their parents, although they feel obligated to please their parents, who are morally and culturally constrained by their rural community. The resurgence of parental power is conflated with strong reciprocal emotional bonding in young urbanites, contributing to painful and prolonged negotiations with parents. Sons are more constrained by parental authority than daughters, given the continued importance of patrilineality. This study therefore illustrates the resilience and the multifaceted transformation of filial piety in China.