Chaotic Identities, Love and Fathering

Abstract

Fathers today are confronted with constantly changing ideas on their role as a parent. The old traditional forms of fathering i.e. the breadwinner and protector roles are being gradually replaced by a more reflexive role that places unconditional love from their children as a central theme in a type of reflex- ive parenting. This article examines the role of fatherhood through the theoreti- cal lens of reflexive modernity. It recognises that men are increasingly becoming dependant on their children for unconditional love and this is forcing men to become more involved in the lives of their own children. The theory of reflexive modernisation is applied to a group of 40 fathers from a post-industrial area of Britain to unravel the processes and practices being used in this new type of parenting. This research discovers that fathers in the 21st century have numer- ous pressures from changing ideas about what is a good or bad father, but in the final instance it is their individualised responses to these societal and personal circumstances which create a reflexive type of fathering. This type of father- ing is therefore created by general social changes within a reflexive modern society and also by personal choice.