Beneath Contempt

Abstract

Summary There is a need for increased awareness of the vulnerability of non-traditional/gender atypical (NTGA) boys to be physically, sexually and emotionally abused. Non-traditional/gender atypical male behavior refers to behavior that society usually labels as “sissy” and inappropriate for boys to display. Because NTGA behavior in boys and men is despised in our society, males who behave in feminine-identified ways are at high risk for being stigmatized, ostracized, and abused. A major factor that contributes to this unsafe environment is a patriarchal system that enforces sexist and misogynist attitudes. Because patriarchy devalues and denigrates females and things feminine-identified, boys who display NTGA are looked at as breaking male gender role boundaries. Violence is often used against these boys as a way to punish the misbehavior and also to teach other boys “the rules” for socially acceptable male behavior. The assessment of past physical, sexual, and emotional abuse with NTGA males must include sensitive questions regarding the response to their NTGA behavior. Adults, especially men, need to become allies for these boys and intervene on their behalf when the boys are being abused or mistreated. Men need to overcome the process of fear and intimidation associated with the devaluing of things feminine-identified which prevents them from identifying and empathizing with NTGA boys. Men will benefit from understanding that rigid adherence to gender behavior stereotypes limits their ability to identify with NTGA boys and prevents men from protecting NTGA boys.