Attachment and Bonding

Abstract

Abstract “Attachment and bonding” is a phrase that one now naturally thinks of in describing the early intimate interactions between parent and infant. “Attachment” is the more scientific term that originally referred to an infant's relationship with his or her parent. As attachment theory and research developed, it became applied to individuals of all ages when describing relationships in which they turn to another for safety and the felt‐sense of safety. “Bonding” or “affectional bonds” is taken to refer to an ongoing relationship with a specific person that is emotionally meaningful and creates a desire to maintain mutual contact. Using the terms in this manner, a mother would not be considered to be “attached” to her infant, because she would not turn to her infant for safety. Seeking safety from the other may or may not be a feature in an “affectional bond,” whereas it is always a central component of an attachment relationship. In the most important book in the attachment field, Handbook of Attachment (Cassidy & Shaver, 1999), “bonding” is not even listed in the subject index.