“Are these feelings even real?” Intimacy and Authenticity in Spike Jonze’s Her

Abstract

While essentially heteronormative, the world of Her’s male protagonist, Theodore Twombly, is complicated by the operating systems, sexual surrogates, blind dates, images, and phone sex aficionados he attempts to be intimate with, to which can be added his estranged wife and the romcom ideal in plain sight, Amy. This chapter explores Theodore’s interactions with seven of the film’s women: his wife, Catherine; ‘Samantha’; ‘SexyKitten’; Amy; his blind date; Samantha’s surrogate, Isabella; and a sexy pregnant TV star he glimpses briefly on a screen, and then incorporates into a phone sex session that turns from fantasy to horror. It investigates the complicated relationship between intimacy and authenticity in a future we are already beginning to inhabit.