AN INDIVIDUAL’S RELATEDNESS TO OTHER PEOPLE AND FACTORS AFFECTING IT

Abstract

The article examines what personal characteristics, qualities or factors contribute to the establishment of trusting relationships between people, their support, contributing to the satisfaction of the need for relatedness, in positive relationships with others, in creating a real circle of close people. The article purpose: to identify the features of relatedness estimated with two indicators - using the indicator “positive relationships with others” of C. Riff’s six-factor scales of psychological well-being by and using the test proposed by Bekker M.H.J., van Assen M.A.L. namely by the indicator “sensitivity to others” - and find personal characteristics, qualities or factors that affect these indicators. Sampling and methods. The study involved 220 respondents with average age of 33 years, students, and specialists in various professions. To study the personality traits of respondents who showed high values ​​for the studied parameters, we used the following methods: the General Self-efficacy Scale (Schwarzer, R., & Jerusalem), Folkman and Lazarus' Ways of Coping Questionnaire, Wiesbaden Inventary for Positive Psychotherapy and Family Therapy (WIPPF), S. Maddi's Hardiness Scale, Test-Questionnaire of Self-Attitude of V.V. Stolyn, S.R. Panteleyev, Social behavior and the orientation inventory (B.M. Bass), Zimbardo Time Perspective Inventory, Study of the quality of life of a person, N. Bradburn's Affect Balance Scale, and the Satisfaction with Life Scale (E. Diener et al.). Results and conclusions. Positive relationships with others do not always correlate with personal autonomy and maintain good psychological well-being. The result depends on an individual’s position: subordinate or equal. In the first case, people try more to please their families or friends, other close people. This can be due to excessive connections with significant others or due to a lack of self-confidence. Such people are not inclined to take responsibility for their choice, shifting it to others; painfully afraid that the rejection of other’s opinions and actions at their own discretion will affect the relationship, and people will become lonely; they passively fulfils requests and orders, show blind obedience; in their actions, they rely on external or impersonal motivation. As a result, their quality of life is low, and their affect balance is rather negative and psychological well-being is bad. If relations with others are based on positions of equality, then they bring real pleasure to all sides of interaction and do not interfere with the manifestations of autonomy. An individual involved in an equal relationship is not afraid to show their love, care; is able to perceive themselves and others, in particular, their partners, as they are, to treat them positively, to trust them, to see them as a personality. At the same time, the desire to have people close in spirit does not interfere with acting on the basis of one’s own motives and views, planning one’s actions, taking responsibility for them and for one’s life path as a whole. Therefore, such relationships contribute to a feeling of psychological well-being and happiness, a high quality of life.