An Exploration into Parallel Stories of Co-parenting

Abstract

This research aims to gain insight into how divorced couples prolonged conflict influences co-parenting process and to identify the factors influencing the effectiveness of co-parenting arrangements and to identify challenges experienced during co-parenting. In-depth individual interviews were conducted with six couples practicing co-parenting in Kerala, each with at least one child. Interview followed a dyadic interview model and analysed using thematic analysis. Thematic analysis identified 4 key themes The four themes are; 1) Roles etched in stone (sub-themes; custodial arrangements, mother as a primary care taker, father as a breadwinner, divorce as a social problem). 2) Balancing the seesaw of co-parenting dimensions(sub-themes; co-parental communication, parenting practice, conflict resolution). 3) Riding the stormy sea (sub-themes; emotional rollercoaster, communication can be real challenge, troublesome other & I, parental alienation) 4) Finding solace in life’s storm (sub-themes; social buffers, professional assistance, spiritual fortitude). The research findings underscore the impact of traditional gender roles and societal expectations on post-divorce co-parenting, often relegating mothers to primary caregiving and fathers to financial roles, which limits fathers' emotional involvement and exacerbates mental well-being challenges for mothers. Effective communication is crucial for managing co-parenting complexities and minimizing conflicts arising from inconsistent practices and financial disparities. The study advocates for a parallel co-parenting approach that promotes autonomy for each parent, clear communication, and conflict resolution strategies, particularly benefiting high-conflict situations. By fostering flexible and resilient co-parenting dynamics, parallel parenting approach aims to improve emotional involvement from fathers, reduce societal stigma towards mothers, and ensure the stability and well-being of divorced families. The findings can help us understand the intricate challenges of co-parenting after divorce in Kerala.