Adult children's estrangement from parents in Germany

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AbstractObjectiveTo analyze the prevalence and predictors of children's estrangement from noncoresident biological mothers and fathers during young and middle adulthood.BackgroundIntergenerational relationships exhibit considerable heterogeneity and need not always be close or intact. However, despite its potentially far‐reaching impact on the entire family system, only very few quantitative studies have been conducted yet investigating adult parent–child estrangement.MethodThis study draws on ten waves of longitudinal survey data from the German Family Panel (pairfam;n = 10,228). We estimate two‐level random‐intercept logit panel regressions of parent–child estrangement, defined as noncontact or emotional distance.ResultsSubstantially, more children experienced periods of estrangement from fathers (20%; corresponding to 12% of person‐years of observation) than from mothers (9%; corresponding to 5% of person‐years of observation). We observed a longitudinal pattern reflecting “modest” dynamics, that is, neither continuously estranged relationships nor multiple transitions into and out of estrangement were the rule. Disruptive family events and, particularly, children's estrangement from “other” (biological or nonbiological) parental figures turned out to be the most important predictors of being estranged from the “focal” biological parent, especially from fathers. Children expressing stronger familistic attitudes were less likely to experience estrangement.ConclusionsEstrangement is a quantitatively relevant phenomenon in adult parent–child relations, where relationships with fathers are particularly vulnerable. Crossovers between children's relationships with various parental figures indicate that estrangement is a family matter that is best addressed by taking a family systems perspective. Estrangement deserves further attention by both researchers and practitioners in family counseling and therapy.