Remembering war and genocide is painful. Negotiating whose memories shall be preserved and how their experiences will be represented in commemorations, memorials, and museums is also painful. For any specific war or genocide, many stories can be told, and in many Ways. Whose history should be told? Should it be the victor's or the vanquished's? Should it be his‐story or her‐story? Shall it have a single frame of remembrance or multiple frames? Will the collective memory focus primarily on the war's costs or rather on its achievements? Should the representations be solemn or celebratory, stigmatizing or thought‐provoking, emotional or analytical? Whether they're directly involved in this memory work or instead observing the controversy in the media, survivors of war and genocide often feel strongly about the outcomes of such disputes. Having their experiences represented the way they remember them and their actions depicted the way they want others to remember them, cannot take away the pain. It can, howev...