The Perspective of Bereaved Filipino Families on Continuing Bonds

Abstract

The study explored Filipino experiences on continuing bonds pertaining to loss of a loved one. The phenomenological-qualitative method of research utilizing semistructured interviews was used. The participants are composed of equal number of surviving parents, children, sibling and spouse respondents from Region I and Cordillera Administrative Region. Data were transcribed, coded, and categorized to obtain results of the study. Findings on the nature of continuing bonds are categorized into (a) concrete representation of the deceased which includes dream visitation, spiritual presence and association with the deceased; (b) preserving the memory of the deceased; (c) sustenance of communication with the deceased involves expressing emotions, asking permission/ consulting with decisions, seeking for guidance and sharing family’s achievements and difficulties; and (d) identification with the deceased. From the findings, it is concluded that (a) the relationship of Filipinos continues to exist despite the death of a loved one (b) Filipinos experience connection in the form of a real symbol of their deceased loved ones. It is therefore recommended that bereaved individuals are encouraged to maintain a grief dream journal since it offers a way through healing process. Practitioners should help the bereaved individuals by developing appropriate interventions like group dynamics and psychological debriefing for them to cope with the loss of their family member. Future researchers may also explore loss-related resilience in relation to continuing bonds to investigate the impact of the nature of death.